by TRW » Wed Sep 28, 2011 9:23 pm
[quote:ed1e2b07a9="scorehouse"]let's see if i get this right? lackey's a bum because he's divorcing his wife....who has cancer. why would she want to be with him anyway? i was always told "stayed married because of the kids" not the cancer?[/quote:ed1e2b07a9]
Obviously we don't know the circumstances about Lackey's divorce, but it doesn't look cool. Maybe they weren't getting along before the cancer. Who knows? And maybe it's no one else's business, but he is in the public eye. So he's going to get scrutinized more than the average joe. He gets married in 2008, his wife has breast cancer and he files for divorce? Public perception is going to be that the guy is a douche-bag and that he's an pro athlete who is probably cheating on his wife anyway.
It really is a test of how much you really love someone when they come down with a life threatening illness. I have a neighbor around my age (40's). He got married early and a few years into his marriage, his wife was diagnosed with MS. She's pretty bad now, but he is with her for the long haul. He doesn't have kids. You can tell he loves his wife by the sacrifices he has made and that he doesn't have a hint of regret. Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I have a lot of respect for him.
I have known a couple guys over the last few years who are in "unhappy" marriages and told me they thought about getting divorced. That is until they found out how much it would actually cost them to get divorced. Between alimony and child-support, they couldn't afford it.